Sadly, not all parents are so open-minded. Some may even be happy or unhappy with their children’s partner, for example, because of the color of a person’s skin or the religion they choose to follow.
This is probably why a mother’s response to a text message about who her daughter was dating received so much attention…
Heather Boyer received a text message from someone saying her daughter was dating someone. Boyer herself admits that it took her a while to figure out how to respond to the message correctly, but once you see the text in question you’ll likely understand why.
She shared her response with Love What Matters and it’s one that has proven extremely popular online.
Heather’s response:
“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text …’ I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?’
It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that ‘may not know’.
“Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is. What defines who is he is how he treats my daughter.”
“I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
“I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her well. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat… not to a club or partying on the weekends.
“I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday. He plays in the band, she sits with his family. How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have.”
“He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.”
“So that’s my response to the question I was asked. And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.”
Courtesy Heather Boyer
Heather, we salute you for this incredible response. If everyone in the world shared the same principles and opinions, life would be much nicer and fairer.
We long for a time when no one will be judged by the color of their skin, beliefs, or where they come from, but rather by how they treat others and the deeds they do in life.
We wish Heather’s daughter and her boyfriend all the best moving forward! We’re happy you two have found each other.
No one should ever be judged solely on their looks!